Frequently Asked Questions

 A Divorce Coach creates a nonjudgmental partnership

Coaches are able to provide an unbiased point of view, supporting parents as a voice of reason when emotions are raw. 

Having a partner in managing the challenges of divorce—not only a family law attorney to handle the legal side of things or an accountant to help with financials—can help parents adapt to the stress of divorce rather than become overburdened by it. Complex conversations, such as developing a parenting plan that meets the needs of the children, are less taxing when parents have the emotional resilience to do so calmly.

A divorce coach can also help parents manage their expectations by educating them about the process of divorce, including:  

• Clarifying the different options to dissolve a marriage
• Discussing the most efficient ways of obtaining and completing needed documentation
• Coming up with creative parenting time plans that are both in the best interests of the children and meet the needs of the family.

Through this nonjudgmental partnership, coaches can mentally prepare parents for the waves of emotion they might experience when dealing with issues such as effective co-parenting or distribution of assets.

A Divorce Coach supports organizational skills

Sometimes it can be difficult for parents to envision what they want their lives to be after divorce, which makes it even harder to figure out how to achieve any goals. Divorce coaches help parents by tailoring a forward-looking, goal-oriented, step-by-step process—an exercise that will be the foundation for bridging the gap between where parents are and where they want to be.

While coaches can support parents in organizing papers and records needed for a divorce, the importance of organization isn’t just for documentation. Emotional organization and clarity are just as important, and coaches can help clients define what is most important in their divorce. They can also assist them in understanding and avoiding certain common pitfalls, such as: 

• short-sightedness 
• letting emotions take control 
• seeing only one piece of the puzzle 
• lacking compromise 
• desire for revenge
• allowing family and friends to have too much control 
• forgetting about the children’s best interest 

Divorce is a complicated process, both logistically and emotionally, and coaches can be a vital tool in reducing further complications like these. Coaches can also encourage parents to discover new or redefine their personal goals along with the strategies to achieve them after the divorce.

A Divorce Coach improves communication skills

Effective communication is a building block of any healthy co-parenting relationship and beginning the divorce process with those skills in hand can help parents transition into life after their separation more smoothly.  

Divorce coaches will help parents better negotiate for themselves and their children by teaching and role-playing conscious thought and intentional decision-making skills. Beyond divorce communication, coaches can also assist parents who are struggling with how to tell children about upcoming family changes. 

Divorce coaches prepare their clients, one step at a time, to turn the emotional side of divorce into the business of divorce. It is a time when many parents experience a gap between where they are and where they want to be. But with the guidance of a divorce coach, parents can work through fears and obstacles and develop a strategic roadmap for their divorce. With help preparing for the process, they can also develop the skills necessary to negotiate and effectively communicate their needs, wants, and desires without being hijacked by their emotions. The ultimate goal of partnering with a divorce coach is to empower parents to show up as their best selves, navigate efficiently through the divorce process, gain insight, and create a life vision for themselves and their children based on specific intentions. 

*American Bar Association - Dispute Resolution Process: Divorce Coaching

Sacred Divorce Coaching combines traditional coaching methods in combination with sacred and practical tools to help you manifest the life you dream of.  Some of the tools used include traditional coaching, emotional release techniques, breathwork, guided meditation, individualized manifesation boards, letter writing, jounaling, refocused diversion, rituals, crystals and visualizations.  It is customized to the your individual needs.

100%! What happens in our sessions stays in our sessions, just like seeing a therapist.

The time that your coaching process will take depends on the complexity of your divorce and your commitment and openness to your process.   Results are usually seen between in 3 to 6 sessions.  It is all within you and the frequency in which you choose to meet.